impotence - Lack of Interest in Sex Can Mask Serious problems
Lack of Interest in Sex Can Mask Serious problems
Men often become very concerned when they lose interest in sex or develop problems such as impotence. Unfortunately many women who experience loss of sexual desire tend to explain it away and may even feel it is time for them to give up sexual activity.
A woman may say to herself, "I'm getting too old for sex," or "It's natural to lose interest after being married for so long or after having children." Men often become very concerned when they lose interest in sex or develop problems such as impotence. Unfortunately many women who experience loss of sexual desire tend to explain it away and may even feel it is time for them to give up sexual activity.
A woman may say to herself, "I'm getting too old for sex," or "It's natural to lose interest after being married for so long or after having children." It is important for a woman to pay attention to this signal her body is giving her and find out why she is losing interest in sex. It can be an indicator of serious physical, emotional or relationship problems.
Sometimes women experience physical pain during sex and then forget that was the reason they lost interest in sex. If you are experiencing pain during intercourse you should see your doctor. pain can be an indicator of a number of physical or psychological problems. Some possible physical causes of pain during sex include: diabetes, hormonal problems related to menopause, yeast infections or other sexually transmitted diseases, improper sexual technique, thinning of the vaginal wall and muscle spasms. pain caused by lack of adequate lubrication can be helped by a good personal lubricant.
Hormone replacement after menopause can help some women with low desire. In other cases low thyroid functioning can be a problem and thyroid hormones can increase desire and energy levels in general.
Some of the psychological causes of low sexual desire are: depression, a history of childhood sexual abuse, fear of intercourse which can bring on muscle spasms, or even anticipation of your mate climaxing too quickly.
In working with patients who are experiencing low desire I explore their feelings about sex. Many women are taught to feel guilty or bad about sexual feelings. Martha came to see me because she had gradually lost interest in sex even though she loved and admired her husband. It is not unusual for a woman to enter a really good relationship and then lose interest in sex because she doesn't value herself enough. Martha was afraid that if her husband could really see who she was, he would leave her. She protected herself by losing desire. Through therapy her self-esteem rose and her relationship improved dramatically.
One patient came to me because after 15 years of marriage her husband couldn't stand her lack of desire any longer. Because of lack of desire and other symptoms, I diagnosed depression. I had her see her physician who agreed and prescribed medication. Low sexual desire is one of the most common symptoms of depression. With therapy and medication she not only likes sex now, she likes life!
Some women deal with a difficult relationship or difficult feelings by talking with their bodies instead of with their mouths. They lack desire because they have trouble saying what they need to say. In therapy I help couples talk with each other about all the things they need to share with each other. It isn't unusual for a couple to come in because of the woman's low sexual desire and end up talking about a multitude of other issues they had been ignoring.
Sex can be one of the more difficult things couples must discuss and some couples find it impossible to discuss sexual issues. They need a jump start. Sometimes they find it valuable to see a counselor. Some couples who have read my articles on the web or have visited my website have been successful in talking to each other after buying then listening to my self-hypnosis tapes. There is help available so take heart; when couples find that they can talk about sex, their sex lives improve and their relationship improves in many other areas as well. If you experience lack of sexual desire, don't ignore it. It may be important to your health!